Dad gets revenge on son....for 30 days straight

[TMF]

Don't remember saying any names or quoting anyone. If you took offense, that's on you. Wasn't personal for me.
Do you know that it was the dad that advertised to the world? I don't. I admittedly didn't watch the interviews or research it. But nothing I saw said that the dad posted it on the internet. '

I'm not blowing off anything. I learned how to not care about being humiliated by BEING HUMILIATED! I learned to laugh at life by having humiliating things happen to me. I learned that what other people thought didn't matter by being insulted and bullied. Everyone learns differently, and I know and understand that. But allowing your child to have experiences that are less than pleasant doesn't make you a bad person or a bad parent.

First, how do you think this became an Internet thing in the first place? Who took the dads picture each morning as he did this? It is clear that the intention of all this was to serve the ego of the father so he could later show off how clever he is, at the expense of his son no less.

Maybe he isn't a bad dad, and surely there are plenty of kids who would be so lucky to have a dad so involved, but that doesn't make it right. The whole point here is that shaming and humiliating your child is not a mature way to punish. It is petty and potentially very damaging to the child and the relationship between parent and child. I keep seeing all this Internet shaming of parents on their children and I think it's terrible and abusive, while others think its awesome. I don't get it. While I punish my kids when they do wrong I would never want them to feel humiliation at my hands. That's no better than some bully that picks on him in front of a crowd.

If you think this guy is a bad dad or have a problem with what he did, maybe YOU have the problem.

How else would any reasonable person interpret this? You say it isn't directed at anyone in particular? Well obviously it is. It's directed at anyone who has a problem with what he did. So why throw that in there other than to be an ahole? Edited January 9, 2014 by TMF

[satalac]

I think this is awesome. Obviously the dad cares for his son or else he would have been waving to him every morning in the first place. I bet half those kids on his bus wish they had a dad that took that much interest in them. Face it, kids don't know what's good for them, that's why parents are in charge. This guy showing that he's not going to stop being interested in his kid will speak volumes later on in the kid's life, and in a positive way. 

[Capbyrd]

First, how do you think this became an Internet thing in the first place? Who took the dads picture each morning as he did this? It is clear that the intention of all this was to serve the ego of the father so he could later show off how clever he is, at the expense of his son no less.

Maybe he isn't a bad dad, and surely there are plenty of kids who would be so lucky to have a dad so involved, but that doesn't make it right. The whole point here is that shaming and humiliating your child is not a mature way to punish. It is petty and potentially very damaging to the child and the relationship between parent and child. I keep seeing all this Internet shaming of parents on their children and I think it's terrible and abusive, while others think its awesome. I don't get it. While I punish my kids when they do wrong I would never want them to feel humiliation at my hands. That's no better than some bully that picks on him in front of a crowd.


How else would any reasonable person interpret this? You say it isn't directed at anyone in particular? Well obviously it is. It's directed at anyone who has a problem with what he did. So why throw that in there other than to be an ahole?

 

 

The words if and maybe are in there.  If you felt it applied to you, so be it.  I'll stand by it.  But I did not call out anyone specifically.  

 

 

And where in all of this is the mention of punishment? 

[TMF]

 
And where in all of this is the mention of punishment?

Him embarrassing his kid was intended to be punishment.

[Capbyrd]

How do you know that?  You seem to be making a lot of assumptions.  

[TMF]

How do you know that?  You seem to be making a lot of assumptions.

Because he said that's what his intentions were, to teach him a lesson. That is what parents call a punishment, when the kids must endure something punitive in order to learn a lesson.

[Capbyrd]

You keep saying punishment.  I don't think that word means what you think it means.  
 

pun·ish·ment

 noun \ˈpÉ™-nish-mÉ™nt\

: the act of punishing someone or a way of punishing someone

: the state of being punished

: rough physical treatment

 

 

 

Full Definition of PUNISHMENT

1

:  the act of punishing

2

a :  suffering, pain, or loss that serves as retribution

 

b :  a penalty inflicted on an offender through judicial procedure

3

:  severe, rough, or disastrous treatment

 

 

 

Teaching a lesson is not the same as punishment.  If you mean punishment, as defined above, then I think you are wrong.  If you mean punishment as "teach a lesson" then I have to disagree with you.  

Edited January 9, 2014 by Capbyrd

[satalac]

Teaching a lesson is not punishment. It's a learning device.