Rat Them Out or Not?

[JeffsSig]

I would talk to the Kid first........................

If he is old enough to drive then he is old enough to be treated as an adult.

Talk with him and ask him what he thinks you should do. You know feel him out and see if its a waste of time.

THEN based on the chat with the kid I would take it to the parents or not.

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[Dolomite_supafly]

I try to live by the "you can't police your neighborhood" saying.

It is one thing for it to be a random person in a random place. It is a totally different thing when you know the people involved and will see them over and over again. Although I seriously doubt it is going to change his behavior the kid is now aware that you are aware. He is not likely to do it anywhere around you or your property ever again.

And one more thing, it is possible to be wrong and still be right. I think looking the other way is wrong but in the end it is the right thing to do. For you as well as your family. Your son knows the difference between right and wrong through your parenting. I would consider the situation a win with your son walking away and leave it at that.

Dolomite

[Guest NashvegasMatt]

gotta tell him... and I'm a 23 year old.

[peejman]

While no good deed goes unpunished, I'd also feel compelled to talk to the parents.

[Guest Old goat]

I had a friend a few years ago, not close but chat every time we met. He had two sons the same age as my stepsons. I saw his oldest (16), who had just gottem DL, pulling some pretty dangerous stunts in his truck at the grocery parking lot and then pulled out in traffic, very nearly causing about a 5 car pile up. I thought it would be a good idea to let his Dad know about it, after all thats what I would want. He looked at me kind of strange, thanked me, and then never spoke to me again, also stopped doing bussiness with me mom and dad (country store). Folks are weired.

[shaftbass]

I wouldn't tattle. I smoked my fair share of herb back in the day. No harm done.

[Guest nicemac]

I wouldn't tattle. I smoked my fair share of herb back in the day. No harm done.

Minors from across the street using drugs in his yard. No harm done?

[shaftbass]

"No harm done" was referring to myself.

[Caster]

Just be mindful, If ever the teens find out it was you, your son will likely pay the price. I'm not saying you shouldn't tell......

For the record, I was never caught doing anything when I was a dumb kid. Some say that means I was just really good, but I disagree. I wish someone would have told on me and I had gotten busted for everything. I think I might have turned out a little better, a little sooner.

[ls3_kid]

I learned on my own that some roads just lead to no where. I figured it out quick enough to where nothing has effected my life negatively. However that was due to me noticing the other people I was running around with are not and will not go anywhere in life. I think it's better to inform the parent or the kid. However like everybody else said repercussions will happen to your son if the "victim" finds out you told.

[Caster]

However like everybody else said repercussions will happen to your son if the "victim" finds out you told.

Well, you could talk with the parents and enroll your kid in a Krav Maga class. That would nip it in the bud on both ends.

...I know fighting never solves anything, but it does make one side shut up:devil:

[JReedEsq]

wow this is a tough one! meth no doubt, crack no problem I would tell! weed .... but they do say it leads to other stuff?

I've told several juvenile clients and their parents that with pot, the issue is being aware of the crowd they are running with more than the pot. To me the OPs question is iffy. I'd say it all depends on the relationship with the neighbors and using whatever knowledge the OP has to guess how receptive they will be.

[ls3_kid]

Ha that could work but now a days that usually ends up in lawsuits.

[Guest Zombie-Hunter]

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Edited September 28, 2011 by Zombie-Hunter

[laktrash]

I've told several juvenile clients and their parents that with pot, the issue is being aware of the crowd they are running with more than the pot. To me the OPs question is iffy. I'd say it all depends on the relationship with the neighbors and using whatever knowledge the OP has to guess how receptive they will be.

What he said !!

If the neighbors are close friends its one thing. If its a throw up your hand passing by neighbor it may be another.

[JReedEsq]

I have said it before and I'll say it again.

"Everything little thing that happens in life does not require a face to face with the police"

Geezes some people pay the price or wise up in life without having a badge in their face preaching some whoopie doo Holier than thou crap, And once they clock out its to the booze..........

Even funnier is you could invite the parent over for a few shots and discuss the substance abuse of the local teenagers. Oops I suppose I'd be the only member laughing at that meeting.

I don't think anyone is suggesting calling LE. The question was if a dad to dad talk is necessary. It's a misdemeanor anyway, so unless they see it, a LEO probably isn't going to be too concerned. I agree, as would most, I think, that a panic call to LE is probably over the top. The question is whether or not a father to father talk is in order. I think that can only be answered by knowing what kind of guy the other dad is, and if you think he'd be 1) concerned, 2) receptive and 3) respond appropriately. If, in the OP's judgement, based on his experience, any of the three questions aren't "yes", I'd mind my own business and keep a mental record of who my kid is hanging out with.

Edited September 8, 2011 by JReedEsq

[AMSting]

If it was in my yard, I would talk to the kid the next time I saw him. Tell him to keep out of my yard, period. If dad then asks what beef I had with his kid, I would tell him.

[dralarms]

Nope. Don't tell the dad. Next time you see the kid, tell him to keep it off your property and move on with your life.

[robin48]

I wouldn't tattle. I smoked my fair share of herb back in the day. No harm done.

As did I. Telling the parents could end up saving his life down the road. They have a right to know.

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