div lawyer reccommendations knox area

[Guest 1817ak47]

any recommendations?? lady said she wasn't coming home after a family trip during thanksgiving

[Guest Jamie]

You must'a been a real peach at the in-laws' Thanksgiving get-together...

Seriously though, can't help ya at that end of the state, but I wish you luck in getting it all worked out.

[Guest Letereat!]

Terribly sorry to hear the Bad news.

I have been through a divorce and any way you slice it, it sucks royally. At any rate here is a bit of advice from my personal experience.

If the two of you can agree on the division of all the "stuff" and part amicablie there is absolutely no need to pay for a multi 1000 dollar lawyer. The paperwork can be prepared by, and submitted by any halfway competant lawyer for a few hundred bucks. I think I paid less than 200.00, over ten years ago though.

We did not have children though so I have no idea how much that adds to complexity and cost. They key is "amicable" or uncontested. This means the two of you agree on the division of everything, he puts it all in the dicorce decree, she signs it and one to three months later you go to court and the Judge makes it so. If that is possible just pick a name out of the hat and if you get a good vibe when u meet him or her move forward.

Hope this help some, and again I feel your pain friend, or mabey you are relieved its over, thats the way I felt. Relieved and glad to be "free".

[Guest 1817ak47]

issue I have is that I have inherited alot of money that has gone into the houseand alot of cash of saving bondsthat were bought for me in the 80 and 90s. also here net worth when we got together was at most 3k if even that. i don't mind sharing everything I have, but I am not in the businessof giving it away for grabbers

[Guest Letereat!]

Understood, and I concur. I guess that throws the amicable part out the window. Sounds like you got a fight on your hands then. I guess i would start by trying to convince her that she really does'nt need that much anyway and see if you can get her to join a convent.

[Guest Jamie]

Then you'd better find an attorney and find one fast. Also, you better move or otherwise make assets very difficult for herself to get her mitts on. Otherwise, you're apt to find bank accounts cleaned out, bonds and such missing, etc.

Oh, and one other piece of advice: Once you start the process, don't change your mind or stop. 'Cause I guarantee you that once she figures out that things aren't going like she imagined or hoped they would, she may decide she wants to cozy back up for a while, 'til she can try again from a better "tactical" position.

So, strike hard, strike fast, and strike soon. And don't stop until the job is done.

So sayeth the fellow who's been through this crap twice now.

[Guest tnfireman]

Then you'd better find an attorney and find one fast. Also, you better move or otherwise make assets very difficult for herself to get her mitts on. Otherwise, you're apt to find bank accounts cleaned out, bonds and such missing, etc.

Oh, and one other piece of advice: Once you start the process, don't change your mind or stop. 'Cause I guarantee you that once she figures out that things aren't going like she imagined or hoped they would, she may decide she wants to cozy back up for a while, 'til she can try again from a better "tactical" position.

So, strike hard, strike fast, and strike soon. And don't stop until the job is done.

So sayeth the fellow who's been through this crap twice now.

Jamie hit it dead on, been there twice myself.

[Guest 1817ak47]

no turning back here, caught here in to many lies with whats going on. if she paid more attention to what I taught here she would have covered her tracks better. I am aware of here not so good intentions. also she is 700 mi away, so not sure how that affects things. she can't clean out my account since it isn't joint, and I have a large safe that is taller than her even that will get teh combo changed here in a day or so by the business I bought it from

[Guest Jamie]

Don't forget to change the door locks to the house.

You wouldn't want her sneaking back with a moving crew and cleaning that out either. Might be a good idea to let the local LE know that it's no longer her place of residence too.

Did that with my second wife after she pulled the same "running off" trick. She was most shocked when she discovered she no longer had a right to come back into the house uninvited and without me being there.

You'll eventually have to let her back in to get her personal belongings, but not unescorted and supervised. And not until a judge has said what she can or can not have.

[Dolomite_supafly]

I'll PM you the name of a good lawyer in Knoxville a little later in the AM. My sister is going through a divorce and her attorney took care of her. Everything is signed with her, she is just waiting for the 90 days to tick by. Her husband got what he deserved and then some. He was a deadbeat dad, didn't want anything to do with their daughter and he lived in the same house. He would drop the daughter off with anyone in the family so long as he didn't have to spend time with her. He cross dressed and went to "conventions" every other weekend, those pictures were extremely helpful. He refused to help with the household bills and food while at the same time trying to file for bankruptcy secretly to stick her with 1/2 of his debt. He even had his own food areas that no one was allowed to get food from. If the daughter grabbed something to eat from his food he would go crazy.

I would not try to hide known assets. Any lawyer worth a damn is going to be able to find out what was there right before everything blew up. When you go in front of the judge and they are able to prove you were trying to hide something then it only gets worse for you because the judge won't believe anything you say. Now you can "sell" items to fund the divorce but don't do the "I sold it for $1" tactic, make sure all receipts are for the reasonable value of the item but definitely not for a dollar. If you have untraceable assets like guns or tools then move them to another location but nothing that can be tied to you. Be prepared for anything bought or any assets accumulated after the marriage to be 1/2 hers. Stuff you had before the marriage may also be 1/2 hers but it would be easier to contest.

If you supported her during the marriage you might have to pay her alimony until she is able to get back on her feet or until she remarries, which would really suck. If you have kids do whatever it takes to be the primary custodian, lie, cheat, whatever. Once you have primary custody it is harder for her to take it away as well as the fact you might get a judgement for child support.

Any evidence you have against her make sure to get it now, don't wait. If you have access to her email go through it and look for anything that might help you. Depending on the cell phone carrier you can get a record of calls, maybe even texts. Do this before she is able to isolate herself from you. At this point nothing is out of bounds so long as you keep it legal. Anything in the house belongs to both of you so feel free to snoop through her stuff as you see fit. She has no expectation of privacy as far as anything in the house goes. If she was cheating she probably has some evidence of that in the house somewhere. Assume every conversation with her is recorded, don't get goaded into saying anything that might hurt your case. Also, assume every email will come up in court as well.

Even though she said she was not coming back move to evict her because even though she said she wasn't coming back she still could come back and move back in. Once she is in the house, depending on how evil she is, she sould call 911 and claim domestic abuse to use as fuel for the divorce. While working in LE I saw it a few times. My sister had to file a motion to evict on her soon to be ex. Even after the divorce decree was signed he refused to leave and has had to be evicted. His name is on nothing related to the house yet because he lived there he is a tenant and she legally couldn't make him leave without evicting him.

If you suspect infidelity and can prove it you can sue the man she was with. It will also help out your divorce case because the courts may see it as her fault and award her nothing because she brought it on herself. Seems to be a rash of the "alienation of affection" suites that are being successful lately. Hell, if she is cheating make she was/is with pay you. Hire a private investigator to help out as well.

And the biggest piece of advice I can give you is this,

DO NOT BELIEVE ANYTHING SHE SAYS AND DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR HER! It is her fault after all.

Dolomite

[Guest Jamie]

I would not try to hide known assets. Any lawyer worth a damn is going to be able to find out what was there right before everything blew up. When you go in front of the judge and they are able to prove you were trying to hide something then it only gets worse for you because the judge won't believe anything you say.

Nope, don't hide 'em but make sure they are inaccessible to her. It'll cut down on her doing something, then having a judge rule that she has to give back or put back, then going through the ordeal of actually getting her to comply. If you end up having to wait for her to return anything, I'd be willing to bet you never see it back.

Even though she said she was not coming back move to evict her because even though she said she wasn't coming back she still could come back and move back in. Once she is in the house, depending on how evil she is, she sould call 911 and claim domestic abuse to use as fuel for the divorce. While working in LE I saw it a few times. My sister had to file a motion to evict on her soon to be ex. Even after the divorce decree was signed he refused to leave and has had to be evicted. His name is on nothing related to the house yet because he lived there he is a tenant and she legally couldn't make him leave without evicting him.

I didn't have to go through all of that. Since she had left of her own free will, I simply reported her new address to the S.O. and my attorney. That pretty much sealed the deal with her trying to come back.

Hire a private investigator to help out as well.

Good advice if you can afford it. I didn't need it since I already had so much LE help.

And the biggest piece of advice I can give you is this,

DO NOT BELIEVE ANYTHING SHE SAYS AND DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR HER! It is her fault after all.

Best advice so far. She's now the enemy. Treat her as such, 'cause that's exactly how she's gonna treat you, even though she'll likely smile while she does it. Remember also that Crocodile tears are indeed a crock.

[Guest CJK]

any recommendations?? lady said she wasn't coming home after a family trip during thanksgiving

Sorry to hear that, man.

[Farman]

Been there, done that, .....twice. Jaime and Dolomite hit every point. Great advice from them. The best to you!!

[tnhawk]

Jamie hit it dead on, been there twice myself.

been there, done that

[Sandman]

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[Guest 6.8 AR]

no turning back here, caught here in to many lies with whats going on. if she paid more attention to what I taught here she would have covered her tracks better. I am aware of here not so good intentions. also she is 700 mi away, so not sure how that affects things. she can't clean out my account since it isn't joint, and I have a large safe that is taller than her even that will get teh combo changed here in a day or so by the business I bought it from

Don't kid yourself about the account, unless she has never laid a hand on a check or anything

else of yours. People do crazy things with other people's money. At least let the bank know,

and move any accounts. If it's already yours, solely, that shouldn't be a problem.

[Guest 1817ak47]

beem n laying the groundworkand making changes.

how do I get the local LE dep to make it to where she can't move in. her family is very crookidand would do anything for a free but not easy $. thats how this started.

there are no children.

[Guest buttonhook]

no children is great for you...def. makes thing easier because when you get rid of her your done!!

[RobertNashville]

I have a good friend in the Knoxville are going through a VERY contentious and messy divorce with lot's of assets involved - she is very happy with her attorney so if you still need a recommendation just PM me and I'll get the name and contact info from her and pass it on.

[Guest 85rx-7gsl-se]

Yes get a lawyer ASAP. Inheritance is seperate property but can quickly become marital property depending on how it was used during the marriage through the legal concept of transmutation. I know a good divorce attorney down here. Sorry I cant be more help up there. Best of luck.

[Guest Jamie]

beem n laying the groundworkand making changes.

how do I get the local LE dep to make it to where she can't move in. her family is very crookidand would do anything for a free but not easy $. thats how this started.

there are no children.

All I did was get it on file with both the S.O. and my attorney that she had moved and no longer lived here. That was enough in my case, but that's been more than a decade ago and I don't know how it'll work for you. Besides, it was the department I used to work for...

Best bet is to get an attorney on retainer and ask them.

[Guest Letereat!]

Been there, done that, .....twice. Jaime and Dolomite hit every point. Great advice from them. The best to you!!

Damit man we got a regular divorce club here, Been through the ringer twice myself. Musta used up all my good carma cause neither time did it come to a "war of the roses" so to speak. Sounds like you got bout all the advice you need.

Heres to a solid lawyer and a swift recovery once its over.

[Oh Shoot]

Damit man we got a regular divorce club here, Been through the ringer twice myself. Musta used up all my good carma cause neither time did it come to a "war of the roses" so to speak....

Yeah, guess I was pretty lucky on mine also.

I was a rarity, got paid on my second divorce, that's how badly she wanted out!!

Actually, we still have a good relationship, even contracted to her company for a few years and we still get together a few times a year for dinner and etc..

- OS

[Guest Jamie]

Yeah, guess I was pretty lucky on mine also.

I was a rarity, got paid on my second divorce, that's how badly she wanted out!!

That's funny... 'cause I more or less got paid on my first one: She took all the bills with her and I kept the house.

Her lawyer actually told her that trying to do anything other than that would only cost her more in the long run, and drag things out 'til I got tired of playing. She apparently wanted nothing to do with that, probably because she knew how long my "mean streak" would be willing to keep her hopping.

[Seaslug]

Yeah, guess I was pretty lucky on mine also.

I was a rarity, got paid on my second divorce, that's how badly she wanted out!!

Actually, we still have a good relationship, even contracted to her company for a few years and we still get together a few times a year for dinner and etc..

- OS

Etc.? Thanks for the image there, Mac. Anyone know where I can pick up a bottle of mind bleach on the cheap? ::shiver::

And to the OP, watch your step. A common tactic in the 4th Circuit is for the woman to file for an Order of Protection in Judge Swann's court. Since you are a gun owner, it WILL be granted, and you will essentially be stripped of both your 2nd and 4th Amendment rights pending a hearing. Bear in mind that the hearing in front of Judge Swann is NOT a criminal trial, so there is no burden of proof for your wife, and you can (and historically most likely will) lose your right to possess a firearm for one full year and be asked to surrender any that you own on the spot without having ever done anything wrong. Typically, once the temporary order is granted, your wife's attorney will let you sweat it out until the date of your hearing, and then offer to make it all go away so long as you're willing to acquiesce to her demands. I would tread lightly and keep things with your wife as amicable as possible, if I were you...