Crapped on twice in the last 7 days

[Links2k]

My wife has made it very clear that my life, her life or the lives of our children mean nothing to her ( my opinion). Last monday while visiting a carry prohibited location with my family I had to lock my pistol in the car safe until we left. After departing the location we stopped for gas. After filling up I decided to retrieve my pistol ( I know, I should have done that before pumping the gas). While I am attempting to get my pistol from the safe the wife starts ranting about how long I am taking because she is sleepy and wants to get home. I tell her that I am getting the pistol so that I can protect us if there is a problem on the way home. My wife then states " I don't care about that, I am sleepy". So I get pissed and we have a long silent ride home.

Yesturday while getting into my car to go back to that same location my wife reminds me that we need to stop at the atm. At that point I remember that in a rush I walked out of the house unarmed. I put the car in park to go back into the house and I get this look from my wife like I just crapped my pants. I explain to her that I have to go back into the house to get my pistol and once again she lets me know that she does not care about that, but if I wanted it I should go back inside to get my gun.

It took me about five minutes of riding in silence before I could speak to her. She just does not understand how dangerous the streets are and how important it is to me that I protect my family.

I have decided that I will not talk to her anymore about safety and security. She will simply get the benefits of my protection and enjoy it in ignorant bliss.

[Guest Guy N. Cognito]

Please don't take offense, but your first sentence seems excessively dramatic given the events you describe. Maybe she's just frustrated with your forgetfulness????

I'd cut her a little slack.

[Il Duce]

thats kinda what i was thinking but i didnt wanna be the first to say it lol

[maroonandwhite]

I can sympathize with the OP. My wife is the same way sometimes but anytime there is a strange noise outside or a suspicious individual with an eye on us she is very comforted knowing I am armed. Stay strong man haha.

[lowbud]

Please don't take offense, but your first sentence seems excessively dramatic given the events you describe. Maybe she's just frustrated with your forgetfulness????

I'd cut her a little slack.

+1

Either carry or don't. If you commit to carry then you should never leave home without your gun. And to top that off.. You should have re-armed yourself immediately after leaving the prohibited establishment.

You can't fault her for being a woman..

[Erik88]

Please don't take offense, but your first sentence seems excessively dramatic given the events you describe. Maybe she's just frustrated with your forgetfulness????

yes and no. She did say she "didn't care about it" If you were forgetting your pistol every day then maybe I'd see where she is coming from but it sounds like she is just short on patience.

Does she realize you live in Memphis??? Does she ever watch the news? If I were you I'd just do as you say and not talk to her about it. If you forget again then just walk inside and get your pistol and if she questions you just let it go. But I'm not a relationship guru so don't expect great results lol.

[Guest KimberChick]

Ever think something else is bothering her?

Probably not related to these events at all, they were just the last things to happen while she was aggrevated about something in general.[/spysecret intel]

[Links2k]

She does not like guns. She goes to the gym in the dark at 5am and acts like crime is something that happens to someone else. I just don't want anything to happen that could have been prevented. When I am not home the kids have to beg her to at least keep the keys to the safe nearby. The shotgun is no good if the thief has access to the safe key and you don't.

I have gotten the kids trained and try to have them practice a couple times a month, but the wife won't train or let me train her. She has never been a victim and has no real safety concerns.

Edited October 19, 2010 by LINKS2K

[Links2k]

Ever think something else is bothering her?

Probably not related to these events at all, they were just the last things to happen while she was aggrevated about something in general.[/spysecret intel]

After more than 20 years together and three kids everything that I do bothers her.

Edited October 19, 2010 by LINKS2K

[gregintenn]

You have to learn to pick your battles, man.

[Guest mustangdave]

LOL...Links...MAN UP...suffer in silence...like any good thoughtful husband of 20 or so years should. Seriously though...you may have to go "covert" on her for a while...no mention of the "P" word...just "do it"...situational awareness applies to the "threat" as well as the "protected"

[gregintenn]

Link, I know nothing about you except for the things I've seen you post here. I see a pattern of paranoia in many of your posts. Please don't take offense to this, because it is simply an observation from a detached third party. Your wife might have noticed this as well. If so, I would expect it might make her a bit agitated.

[Guest RevScottie]

You have to learn to pick your battles, man.

...and hope she isn't reading this forum right now

[Guest Jamie]

You'd think that after being married basically my entire adult life I'd have something helpful to say, or some useful advice... but you know what?

... I've got nothin'.

[mikegideon]

You'd think that after being married basically my entire adult life I'd have something helpful to say, or some useful advice... but you know what?

... I've got nothin'.

Yep. If you don't get hit in the head with a curve ball every once in awhile, you better check and see if she's still breathing

[Links2k]

LOL...Links...MAN UP...suffer in silence...like any good thoughtful husband of 20 or so years should. Seriously though...you may have to go "covert" on her for a while...no mention of the "P" word...just "do it"...situational awareness applies to the "threat" as well as the "protected"

Agreed.

[Links2k]

Link, I know nothing about you except for the things I've seen you post here. I see a pattern of paranoia in many of your posts. Please don't take offense to this, because it is simply an observation from a detached third party. Your wife might have noticed this as well. If so, I would expect it might make her a bit agitated.

Do I pay on the way out or are you going to bill me for your diagnosis? No offense taken. You can call it paranoid, overly careful or being a Memphian. I don't want a simple mistake to be my last.

Edited October 19, 2010 by LINKS2K

[Guest Jamie]

Yep. If you don't get hit in the head with a curve ball every once in awhile, you better check and see if she's still breathing

Eh, for me the problem is that I don't know him, I don't know her, and I'm only hearing one side of the story.

So... if anything I could say actually turned out to be helpful, it would only be out of sheer blind luck.

[Links2k]

Yep. If you don't get hit in the head with a curve ball every once in awhile, you better check and see if she's still breathing

I knew the married guys would know where I was coming from. I know she means me no harm. She knows that I will protect her with or without a weapon. Hell, until that picture thread I thought that I was one of the biggest guys in the state.

[JReedEsq]

Maybe you should get a pocket gun. Just something to slip into your pocket when you're hanging around the house or otherwise "not carrying". My wife is not really a gun person either, so I try to avoid making her wait on me by slipping my LCP or G26 into a pocket if I'm in a hurry.

[Guest strelcevina]

I'm with your wife on this one.

You sounded melodramatic , and boring at a same time.

I was thinking a same thing the wife said to you and I dont know you .

I was thinking what if your wife did a same thing to you only with different stilettos,I don't mean knife :)I meant shoes

Omg I can't wear 5inch stilettos in gasstation can you give me 3inch one from a glovebox.

In bank I got to have my 4inch one . Can u get it from a trunk .

You don't understand how important is to PROTECT US from people talking about US .

Just a sec I got get my original Italian 6inch stilettos I left it in other room .hold on just a minute .

[Guest Sgt. Joe]

After more than 20 years together and three kids everything that I do bothers her.

Not quite 20 years for me but I live in that world too.

All we can do is take each day as it comes. A few days ago my wife took offense to a comment I made about her sister, never mind that the comment was only made in agreement with something she had just said. It caused a big ole argument and I could not figure out just why?

Today she went to her Doc and ended up being admitted to the Hosp with possible pneumonia which she seems to get every few years about this time of year. Now I know why she was so argumentative over a simple comment that was made in agreement....She simply did not feel well.

Kimber Chick probably has it right in that it is something else that is bothering her and has nothing to do with your carrying or not.

[Guest RevScottie]

She just does not understand how dangerous the streets are and how important it is to me that I protect my family.

One question I have is where are you going on a repeat basis that prohibits carry? If you are concerned about the family's safety do you have to keep taking your family there?

[Will Carry]

My wife gets like that sometimes too. "You're not carrying that gun to your grandaughters birthday party! there will be CHILDREN there!" Boy I turned red and was about to say something stupid until I remembered my training. I simply said, "Yes and those children and us will be well protected."

I mean WTF! Women expect us to protect them but they don't want us to use a gun. I ain't getting in to a fist fight with a guy packing heat. I can't protect her if I'm dead! SOBDMF#$%&.........the pipes...listen to the pipes......... Edited October 20, 2010 by Will Carry

[laktrash]

I like the idea of a pocket gun. Keep it simple and don't make a big deal out of it

Mine could care less if I carried a desert eagle or what, But I usually just slip my S&W 640 in my pocket everywhere we go and don't make a production out of it.

Not taking sides just a different version of " Don't ask don't tell"