My kid's friend is not allowed to come over any more...

[shortround]

So after I applied for my HCP, my wife decided to get hers, too. I got her a gun of her own and took her to the range where she did quite well - 5 inch groups at 10 yards first time out. She was naturally proud of herself and told several of her friends about it. Well...

She calls me today and says one of her friends, really her best friend, came over and asked if we actually had guns in the house. Seems that her husband has decided that their son is not allowed to come over anymore as long as we have guns in the house. She also asked where the guns are kept (locked in a safe) and if the ammunition was kept separate. My wife told her the ammo is kept separate, failing to mention that, well, of course the guns in the safe are loaded and there are loaded spare mags with them. Oh, and of course there is this one I keep on my hip, it is loaded also... Hope that isn't a problem....

She told me she doesn't think her friend feels too good about the whole thing. Oh well, making her friend feel good is way down on my list. In fact, I don't even think it is on the list, come to think of it. Fortunately, I have a Really Good Wife, and she is on board with my way of thinking, so it isn't an issue.

I'm sure most here have run into this sort of thing. I will say that this attitude is a bit new to me, as it isn't a common way of thinking back up in the hills of East. Tn where we are from from.

[Guest benchpresspower]

Been there in a different situation though. Long story short, I've had "friends" turn their back on me and have nothing to do with me since I started carrying. You get used to it after a while. Had one actually say to me that he didn't want me in his home nor would he associate with me since I carry a gun and that it would be dangerous for him and his wife to do so. I had only two words for him, "Oh well"

[GLOCKMEISTER]

SCREW'EM and next time you see them ask them which other parts of the constitution of the United States do they not agree with? Better yet off them the opt out policy and buy'em a one way ticket to Canada.

Edited December 4, 2009 by GLOCKMEISTER

[mcurrier]

Find some new friends.

Maybe these people will understand one day when something happens to them.

[Guest jackdm3]

Your kid's friend may feel so polarized from this that he/she develops a strong desire to carry when 21. My parental units tried to do the same to me. "No BB guns!"

"Look at me now, Ma!"

[TripleDigitRide]

That must really suck. One less kid in your house. I would be very bummed if I were you.

[Guest 2HOW]

That must really suck. One less kid in your house. I would be very bummed if I were you.

LMAO =+1

[TGO David]

Congrats! You've begun thinning out the nitwits that you unknowingly associated with.

[GLOCKMEISTER]

It all starts with...."Your gonna shoot your eye out"!!!

:-)

[creeky]

While I agree with everything here... the sad thing is the little kid. He doesn't get to have his friend over any more and who knows what they are saying about the parents in front of their kid. All of which gets addressed later at school with the kids.

Sucks... but it is what it is.

[shortround]

That's pretty much what my wife said.

That must really suck. One less kid in your house. I would be very bummed if I were you.

[Mike.357]

I would not comply. I would invite the little kid over often, invite him to go to the movies, any reason I could think of.

As for the yard sign, I really like that. Do that definitely ( no sarcasm here). I am guessing the neighbor will want to talk about it.

[Guest Muttling]

Oh, and of course there is this one I keep on my hip, it is loaded also... Hope that isn't a problem....

OMG!!!!

That is so insanely dangerous. You should carry the empty weapon with a trigger lock on it and have the magazines in a seperate pouch with a padlock AT A MINIMUM.

If you really want to be safe.....carry casings, bullets, primers, powder, and a reloading press. This way you don't have to actually assemble the cartridges until needed.

[oldogy]

OMG!!!!

That is so insanely dangerous. You should carry the empty weapon with a trigger lock on it and have the magazines in a seperate pouch with a padlock AT A MINIMUM.

If you really want to be safe.....carry casings, bullets, primers, powder, and a reloading press. This way you don't have to actually assemble the cartridges until needed.

Isn't that how Barny Fife carried?

oldogy

[MudBugjr]

Invite the wus of a dad over show him how you keep them. Then invite him and his son to the range. Never know might just surprise you and get hooked. If not put the sign up!

[dats82]

One less snot-nosed little kid. Am I missing something here?

[Punisher84]

One less snot-nosed little kid. Am I missing something here?

Yea it's called "the point."

Anyway, sucks that your kid's friend won't be able to come over and I certainly wouldn't bow to the whims of the nancy-boy anti, but perhaps a conversation on neutral grounds would relieve some fears so at least your kids could hang out.

I guess I would weigh how old your kid is, his understanding of the situation, and how close of a friend the other kid was.

Hope it all works out.

[Guest TurboniumOxide]

and one less birthday party you have to go to.

[Guest GunTroll]

Congrats! You've begun thinning out the nitwits that you unknowingly associated with.

HAHAHAHA!

[prov281]

I was raised in California and it sounds like THAT kind of thinking. Being IN law enforcement, most of my friends and neighbors ALWAYS knew where to run to if there was a problem in the neighborhood. I guess some folks JUST don't get it, everyone I know packs from friends in SWAT and regular folks, that is why I love Tennessee. This is the safest place around. I sleep well knowing we are ALL watching each others backs.....Ya kinda have to just smile and KNOW you are in the majority.....

So after I applied for my HCP, my wife decided to get hers, too. I got her a gun of her own and took her to the range where she did quite well - 5 inch groups at 10 yards first time out. She was naturally proud of herself and told several of her friends about it. Well...

She calls me today and says one of her friends, really her best friend, came over and asked if we actually had guns in the house. Seems that her husband has decided that their son is not allowed to come over anymore as long as we have guns in the house. She also asked where the guns are kept (locked in a safe) and if the ammunition was kept separate. My wife told her the ammo is kept separate, failing to mention that, well, of course the guns in the safe are loaded and there are loaded spare mags with them. Oh, and of course there is this one I keep on my hip, it is loaded also... Hope that isn't a problem....

She told me she doesn't think her friend feels too good about the whole thing. Oh well, making her friend feel good is way down on my list. In fact, I don't even think it is on the list, come to think of it. Fortunately, I have a Really Good Wife, and she is on board with my way of thinking, so it isn't an issue.

I'm sure most here have run into this sort of thing. I will say that this attitude is a bit new to me, as it isn't a common way of thinking back up in the hills of East. Tn where we are from from.

[Guest mosinon]

I'd just say:

"What a relief. I can get rid of the guns no problem. I thought you guys were pissed about the meth lab or porno studio. Honestly, Jimmy has so much fun playing Amps or Volts? with your kid there's no way I could tear them apart"

[Guest grimel]

She calls me today and says one of her friends, really her best friend, came over and asked if we actually had guns in the house. Seems that her husband has decided that their son is not allowed to come over anymore as long as we have guns in the house. She also asked where the guns are kept (locked in a safe) and if the ammunition was kept separate.

The proper response is none of your damn business.

[Guest wdytia]

Ok, I am going to throw out a thought. Instead of all the smarta** comments, have you considered that this may be a legitimate concern for the friend's parents? Just having a permit to carry does not mean there is no danger in the home. I know several people that obtained a HCP that I would not trust around my children with weapons. Some have wild west attitudes and one, in particular, let having a permit swell his head tremendously. He does not secure his weapons and ammo properly, instead believing that no one would dare mess with him now. So instead of blowing them off, maybe educate them that you know what you are doing and that their child is safe in your home? In spite of our second amendment rights, the facts are that gun accidents do happen all the time and no responsible parent can just assume that everyone with a gun in the house knows what they are doing to assure the safety of visitors. Off my soapbox now....

[Guest Usagi]

So after I applied for my HCP, my wife decided to get hers, too. I got her a gun of her own and took her to the range where she did quite well - 5 inch groups at 10 yards first time out. She was naturally proud of herself and told several of her friends about it. Well...

She calls me today and says one of her friends, really her best friend, came over and asked if we actually had guns in the house. Seems that her husband has decided that their son is not allowed to come over anymore as long as we have guns in the house. She also asked where the guns are kept (locked in a safe) and if the ammunition was kept separate. My wife told her the ammo is kept separate, failing to mention that, well, of course the guns in the safe are loaded and there are loaded spare mags with them. Oh, and of course there is this one I keep on my hip, it is loaded also... Hope that isn't a problem....

She told me she doesn't think her friend feels too good about the whole thing. Oh well, making her friend feel good is way down on my list. In fact, I don't even think it is on the list, come to think of it. Fortunately, I have a Really Good Wife, and she is on board with my way of thinking, so it isn't an issue.

I'm sure most here have run into this sort of thing. I will say that this attitude is a bit new to me, as it isn't a common way of thinking back up in the hills of East. Tn where we are from from.

I have a question and a comment in response:

Question:

Did you ever consider disallowing your child to play at their home? Seriously, how are these people going to protect your son/daughter when the "bad guy" comes? They have no firearms to fight back with. That's the real danger, here.

Comment:

That's why I married an east TN woman - same dimensions, height, weight, etc. as Marilyn Monroe. Red hair. Can cook. Has a HCP and carries. Can shoot man-sized targets at 500 yards consistently with a rifle. Prefers Glocks, M1 Carbines and AR15's. Only thing wrong with her is her eyesight - she married me!

[USMCJG]

In spite of our second amendment rights, the facts are that gun accidents do happen all the time and no responsible parent can just assume that everyone with a gun in the house knows what they are doing to assure the safety of visitors. Off my soapbox now....

No offense, but gun accidents are actually not very common at all in the grand scheme of things. There were 214 accidental gun deaths amongst children nationwide in 1999, and this counts 18 and 19 year olds as children. They are all tragic, but there are much greater concerns out there. News agencies simply don't report children dying from a fall, motor vehicle accident, fire, or drowning the same way they do an accidental shooting, even though each of those causes of death is much more prevalent. A neighbor's swimming pool is statistically a much more serious threat to a child's life than a neighbor's gun.