how would yall feel

[Guest 7mmMag]

If a family member which you have carried around for 10+ years, all of the sudden says they are not comfortable with you carrying in their house. I have been a hcp holder for over 10 years and been around this family member alot...this is a sibling not a distant relative of any kind. I do believe he has that right to ask anyone not to have a weapon in his home and I could really understand if I was doing anything unsafe but it was concealed and could NOT have been seen, but why would you say this after being around it for 10 years

[Westwindmike]

His house, his rules. But he might only get a lump of coal from me this year.

[TNTitan]

If a family member which you have carried around for 10+ years, all of the sudden says they are not comfortable with you carrying in their house. I have been a hcp holder for over 10 years and been around this family member alot...this is a sibling not a distant relative of any kind. I do believe he has that right to ask anyone not to have a weapon in his home and I could really understand if I was doing anything unsafe but it was concealed and could NOT have been seen, but why would you say this after being around it for 10 years

Yup. Its HIS home, not yours. He can request everyone wear tie-died fake afros in HIS home if he likes. You don't HAVE to be there.

I would politely discuss with him WHY you carry and let him know that its really important for you to carry wherever you are. If he tells you to get bent, then you either need to stop going over there or lock it in the car when you visit and respect his wishes when in HIS home.

[Guest 7mmMag]

well thats what happened I was actually cleaning his pistol for him that he leaves in his truck and when he made the statement he didnt like me carrying in his house.... he asked me to take it to the truck and I told him I would just leave before I did that, I just have a personal thing about locking them in cars and that I would just leave and started packing up my gun cleaning stuff, and he said he didnt want me to leave and asked if I would just unload it, which i did. I just dont get why it would be a problem now after I have been carrying around him for that many years.

on another note once I was at his apartment late one night it was just me him and his wife and newborn child, and someone started beating on the door around 2 am and it was quite obvious who they asked to check the door

[TNTitan]

sounds like he needs some polite re-education.

[Guest H0TSH0T]

keep your friends and family close, keep your firearm closer, I would have thanked him for all the good times over at the house, and would have told him that it looks like we may have to start having visits over at mine, and left.

[Guest 2HOW]

On the surface I would say you did something to make him insecure being around you with a gun.

[Guest 7mmMag]

On the surface I would say you did something to make him insecure being around you with a gun.

i thought the same thing, but then again he has never seen me pull this pistol out of my pocket.... im wondering if cleaning his gun for him just made him think about guns in general....i dont have a clue .....it might even be his wife makes him keep his in his truck and not in the house so he might be jealous....

but those visits at his house are probably going to slow down...they can come over here or we can meet at the parents house. and since dad packs I know for a fact that wont ever be said to me at mom and dads house

[strickj]

His wife could be putting him up to it.

Have a good friend that's like that

IMO,I wouldn't let an object stand in the way of family,or friends. My gun isn't a safety blanket,and isn't worth loosing what little bit of family I have because I wanted to have it in their home.

I'd say give it a few days,and all will be forgotten!

[Raoul]

Have you asked your Dad about this? Something has obviously upset your brother. His wife perhaps?

My only advice would be to not cut off your nose to spite your face. While you may want to visit less often, he's still your brother.

[oldogy]

Some folks become completely irrational when it comes to guns anywhere near kids. Hard to understand.

oldogy

[Guest Arko]

Have you asked him directly why he had a change in thinking?

[Guest spoolie]

^^^^^^

You will never know the answer until you ask the question.

[Guest 7mmMag]

The only answer I got was he didnt think I needed to have a loaded gun in his house, that he wouldnt live anywhere that he thought he would need one. He has kids but again I have been around them their entire lives with that same pistol in my pocket. I think its the wife honestly putting him up to it. I would never cut off my relationship with my brother, maybe im just letting it aggrivate me too much.

[Guest jdavis]

dont get aggrivated, just have your family visits at his house on his porch. when it gets cold outside his wife will want to go inside gun or not. some women are so confused about guns that they cant be helped ,and there is no way to get through to them until they are in a sitiuation where they need one. my old lady was that way when i met her, we had a bad experience, and now she shoots with me and carries a glock 23, and she is a pretty darn good shot.

[Guest Arko]

I hate that old "I don't go/live where I'll need a gun" argument. It makes perfect sense to them, but baffles us, that know you NEVER know what can happen.

[Mike.357]

just say something like, "okay. whatever you say bro" then just keep the thing concealed and don't mention it. What is he going to do? Call the man and have you arrested?

Be forgotten in short order I imagine.

[tntnixon]

The only answer I got was he didnt think I needed to have a loaded gun in his house, that he wouldnt live anywhere that he thought he would need one. He has kids but again I have been around them their entire lives with that same pistol in my pocket. I think its the wife honestly putting him up to it. I would never cut off my relationship with my brother, maybe im just letting it aggrivate me too much.

These kinda things are almost always started by the wives. They watch too much Oprah and read every left leaning liberal magazine they can get their hands on. Then they put their husbands up to making demands on their behalf as if it was the husbands idea. seen it way too often.

[Guest spoolie]

Damn Oprah....damn her to hell.

[bubbiesdad]

well thats what happened I was actually cleaning his pistol for him that he leaves in his truck and when he made the statement he didnt like me carrying in his house.... he asked me to take it to the truck and I told him I would just leave before I did that, I just have a personal thing about locking them in cars and that I would just leave and started packing up my gun cleaning stuff, and he said he didnt want me to leave and asked if I would just unload it, which i did. I just dont get why it would be a problem now after I have been carrying around him for that many years.

on another note once I was at his apartment late one night it was just me him and his wife and newborn child, and someone started beating on the door around 2 am and it was quite obvious who they asked to check the door

Does he have a HCP for the gun in his truck?

[Wingshooter]

His wife could be putting him up to it.

Have a good friend that's like that

IMO,I wouldn't let an object stand in the way of family,or friends. My gun isn't a safety blanket,and isn't worth loosing what little bit of family I have because I wanted to have it in their home.

I'd say give it a few days,and all will be forgotten!

I agree 100%

His wife could be behind it, and not necessarily directed at you. Maybe she's got a new "no guns in the house" rule or something like that. I'd let things stay normal between you guys and just ask him after some time has passed.

[-boatman-]

His wife could be putting him up to it.

That is the same thing I was thinking when I started reading this. If so do you think he will tell you?

[TripleDigitRide]

I haven't spoken with my mother in about 8 years. The decision would be rather simple for me.

[Wingshooter]

That is the same thing I was thinking when I started reading this. If so do you think he will tell you?

True. He might be reluctant to throw her under the bus and risk the family getting upset with her. However, he might admit to respecting his wife's wishes if asked why he keeps his own gun in the truck.

There's a reason his own gun is not inside.

[MudBugjr]

My question is why would you leave your gun in your truck living at an apartment complex. might as well leave it on the hood with a sign on it. TAKE ME! . I don't care how nice a place never safe.