Restraining Order Question

[Guest JeepMonkey]

I am doing therapy with a female much like one described here . . . the scariest reality is how justified she feels for the things she is/has done to her ex-husband. None of it is her fault.

Thus, her narcissism is what makes her dangerous.

Talk with an attorney, and document EVERYTHING she has said or done. You well may need it someday.

One step ahead of 'ya there...my attorney has about a 12-page document of the stuff I've told him about her/us/everything that has happened.

[Punisher84]

JM, in all seriousness I've been down this road before (not this extreme, but close) you need to show you've done everything in your power to avoid her. Get a restraining order if you want to have legal documentation of an issue, but as others have stated it's not going to do much in the way of keeping a determined person out of your hair. I hope it gets settled without much more issue for you or your property.

Edited March 7, 2009 by Punisher84
Clarification ;)

[Guest JeepMonkey]

JM, in all seriousness I've been down this road before (not this extreme, but close) you need to show you've done everything in your power to avoid her. Get a restraining order if you want to have legal documentation of an issue, but as others have stated it's not going to do much in the way of keeping a determined person out of your hair. I hope it gets settled without much more issue for you or your property.

I'm going to call my insurance agent on Monday and see if they will be pressing any form of charges, and if so, have them push for a court order to stay away from my parent's home and property. My guess is that when she realizes my insurance company would be pressing charges and not me, her lawyer will opt pretty quickly for some form of settlement, so I'm going to express to them how they need to take it to some form of court to get a court-mandated order against her that doesn't have my Dad or me as the one who filed it.

If she wasn't nuts, I wouldn't have to worry about her after any form of trial or settlement, but she is, so it's going to be a fun road.

Memories of that relationship remind me why I quit drinking...turns out you agree to a lot of stupid crap when you're young, dumb, and drunk.

Edited March 7, 2009 by JeepMonkey

[Rightwinger]

Your 19 and had to quit drinking already??? Dad's been T-boned. You have a ex from hell and now your dealing with insurance companies, attorneys and cops.

Sell the movie rights now!

IMHO, and as a tribute to the late Paul Harvey, I'll back all the way out from this one and wait for the rest of the story.

[Guest JeepMonkey]

Your 19 and had to quit drinking already??? . . . You have a ex from hell and now your dealing with insurance companies, attorneys and cops.

I think it was in the other thread I mentioned my "wilder days". I wasn't kidding. I thank God every day that I'm not like that anymore.

Anyways, Dad likes the idea I had in my last post, so that's what I'll be doing on Monday, and knowing my agent, it'll be an all-day event...

Edited March 7, 2009 by JeepMonkey

[Rightwinger]

Wilder days.....that's funny right there.

Gotta run. Busy day tomorrow not being involved in that much life.

Edited March 7, 2009 by Rightwinger

[threeshot]

I think it was in the other thread I mentioned my "wilder days". I wasn't kidding. I thank God every day that I'm not like that anymore.

Anyways, Dad likes the idea I had in my last post, so that's what I'll be doing on Monday, and knowing my agent, it'll be an all-day event...

I would be very surprised if the insurance company would be willing to try for a protection order or restraining order since the insurance company is not the one being threaten. The insurance company is insuring the property. You and your family are the people being threaten. IMO, you or your family will have to file the OP or RO.

[Guest JeepMonkey]

I would be very surprised if the insurance company would be willing to try for a protection order or restraining order since the insurance company is not the one being threaten. The insurance company is insuring the property. You and your family are the people being threaten. IMO, you or your family will have to file the OP or RO.

Well the insurance company knows that the property they insure was obviously targeted for a specific reason by a specific person, but who knows.

[Guest Revelator]

Only persons who are in danger of domestic abuse, stalking or sexual harassment may apply for an order of protection, as per TCA 36-3-605:

36-3-605. Protection order — Extension — Hearing. —

( Within fifteen (15) days of service of such order on the respondent under this part, a hearing shall be held, at which time the court shall either dissolve any ex parte order that has been issued, or shall, if the petitioner has proved the allegation of domestic abuse, stalking or sexual assault by a preponderance of the evidence, extend the order of protection for a definite period of time, not to exceed one (1) year...

[Guest JeepMonkey]

It would be North Carolina law, though. Car/Family/Ex is all in and insured/registered in NC.

[Guest Revelator]

Ah, yes. Well...never mind. But whatever their law is, it probably has some requirement of physical danger. That's what protection orders are supposed to guard against. Best of luck.

[Guest sgtrutledge]

IMO sounds like you need more proof before getting a r/o phone calls,texts, situations of harrassment,etc. The keyed car is not yet proven. Also like it was said before if someone was investagting this you have a awful alot of knowledge of her current situtation to be out of contact or trying to distance yourself from her.

[Guest JeepMonkey]

UPDATE: Insurance company said they would not pursue any court orders against her keeping her away from my family/property if it goes to court. I do not think they will press criminal charges, but they are going to pursue a civil suit.

[Guest tacticalteacher]

If you were married or lived together you can get an Order of Protection and it's good throughout the United States. It will not affect you in any way shape or form as far as getting a HCP. If she's doing that to you vehicle you might want to think about hiding your rabbit. (sorry for the joke)