I went down to Carters supply shop, and got to shoot a G19, S&W M&P9c, and the XD 9mm SC. I also shot the XD .4 SC (with extended mag with grip spacer). I went with the M&P. I like the wight, grip angle, and the recoil. The misses also really liked it (the main reason I went with the M&P, personally I liked the XD 9mm the best, but I'll get that in the summer when I have a little bit more $$. I personally like the weight, feel, and recoil of the 9mm caliber. Clips hold more rounds, it's easy to re-aquire your target, and they're light. So I think (especially since I want to be able to carry) For now I'll stick with the 9mm. A little later down the road I'll get a .45, but for now, 9mm it is. I also bought some Remington gold tip JHP's to keep in the mag at home, and a big 'ol box of UMC's to use at the range. Plan on taking my wife out to the range tomorrow, maybe use up 100 rounds or so.