I definitely fall into the Reformed camp, however the TR's don't like me because I am both charismatic and egalitarian in my theology. That's a nice mix there isn't it? I do think that God allows and honors some of our choices, I just don't see that extending to us have the ability to choose to follow Christ. I can't argue with the TULIP.
I agree with you on the Hyper Calvinists, IMO they have substituted "correct doctrine" for "correct action" as man centered saving work and in end have still managed to disregard the Cross.
In the end, I don't view the Calvin/Arminius debate as a salvific issue, so it isn't something I will spend time arguing about. Just like I won't spend time arguing down dispensationalism. You start throwing in things like baptisms for the dead or adding new texts to the Cannon, and we might be in for a conversation.